I've been planning a friend's (frm SIM) bdae. Actually she asked us to celebrate it for her. Out of pity i agreed, as she's alone in a foreign land (she's frm a country somewhere near india, shall not disclose it hr) w/o friends and family. Now that aft i started planning and stuff, she shows her true colours. This will be the 1st and last time i'm doing something for her, aft this i'll just treat her as an acquaintence, nothing more but maybe something less.

Her bdae actually falls on June 10th, and she'd be gg back to her hmtwn only in early july (as according to her a few weeks back) she'd be spening her bdae here alone. So she smsed me saying something like 'will u want to celebrate my birthday for me, i'm family deprived' Being the stupid fool i agreed and even asked my other 2 friends along (all 4 of us are frm PEARLS). Worse, i thought that the least i cld do was to cheer her up. Guess that i was wrong. COs whatever i do, she'd ask for MORE. Too much for being mr-good-guy.

I was asking her and 2 of my other friends wh are celebrating w us too on what they wish to do on that day. It took her bloody LONG to reply my sms while the others were ok w anything, and asked me to ask the 'bdae gal's' opinion. So the bdae gal finally replied 'How abt both?? I want to watch shrek 3!!' Feeling that i shd tell the rest abt this msg, i didnt reply and went abt discussing w the other 2 what we were to do on that day. 2 hours later (@ 1am in the morning) the bdae gal smsed "hi. it hurts when u dont reply me back. I think that it wld be better if u fgt my bday arrgment. It is enough that u thought abt it" I spent the whole day looking for presents (we're gonna do a celebration for hui min too) and thinkng abt what to do and stuff, and this is the type of treatment i gt. Instead of a THANK YOU i gt this. So i replied her "i was discussing it w HM and MX, and besides it's alrdy very late, i thought that u'd alrdy slept, i as planning to gt back to u aft i've settled everything" Aft that no reply. SO i went to sleep w smoke coming out of my ears.

The nxt day, aft swimming i mass sms the 3 of them stating the meeting time, place and whether they're ok w it. The 2 said yes. The bdae gal didnt reply until i smsed her again 8 hours later. She wasnt ok w the time, so i told her that we cld wait as MX ends her paper at 1pm and if i push back more MX will be alone, we cld wait for her till she comes. Her reply 'i dun want u guys to wait unneccessarily for me. then i won't be gg, u guys have fun w/o me' so i told her that i'd be making a cake and that the 3 of us cld shop ard b4 she comes, and blah blah blah. Then her nxt sms 2 hours later was 'cld i bring my 2 friends frm my hostel along?' . when i said yes she gt all excited. and smsed me this 'u hv no idea hw happy u just made me. i hv so many friends but u r the one i trust and no one else. i feel sorry for yesterday. can u forgive my mistake?' So my reply was 'i'm ok alrdy. i was very pissed aft reading ur sms last night, cos i spent alot of effort and time for friday's thing' her reply 'i thought that u didnt care abt me when u didnt reply my msg, it hurts badly' Pls la, i'm NOT UR BOYFRIEND NOR GIRLFRIEND, and ppl have reasons for nt replying smses. Who knows that i died on the spot beofre i cld even reply that sms, and her last sms to me those of angry maligns. And since i'm the only person she trusts shd't she treat me better? I really dunno hw this person treats her friends... I know that it cldn't be due to cultural differences as frm all the cultures i've known (the indonesian culture, US culture and Singapore culture), ppl dun treat others badly and think of them so lowly to let them know that they care for the other party.

Aft analysing that there wld be 6 instead of 4 ppl nw, a big cake wld be required. And hw cld i manage to bring ard such a big cake and 2 presents ard frm my hse in JUrong west to vivo and ard vivo? And since she changed her plans of gg back frm late july to now 2nd june, it wld mean that she'll be spending her bdae at hm surrounded by family and friends and w a cake of course. So we shdn't be worried that she'd go w/o a cake this yr. SO i discussed w the other 2 and we came to a conclusion that we'll do w/o the cake.

So when the bdae gal asked what cake i was baking i just said 'since there's th 6 of us, a big cake is required and i'm afraid that i wld melt and that i'd be troublesome to carry it ard, i seek ur understanding and pls dun be upset and angry w us' she still refuse to understand our situation and replied 'just make a cake big enough for all to taste, what flavour will u be baking?' i started to gt impatient w this ingrate and thus replied 'i'm making an agar agar cake, and since i'm afraid that it'll melt, and it'll be troublesome to carry ard, we'll just do w/o it'. no reply watsoever aft that. Pls think of others, the world doesn't just revolve ard u, i'm getting kinda sick of this attitude of hers.

In indonesia we have this proverb 'Di kasih hati, minta jantung' which in direct translation wld sound like; i give u my liver, and u ask for my heart (as in the organ that pumps blood). This peri bahasa can be applied in this case. The chinese have another phrase which roughly sounds like: when u're kind to a person, she'll climb up to ur head.

Aiya, i think that i have bad judgement abt ppl. This shall be the first and last time i'm gonna do such a thing for this person. I just can't stand her self centredness. Maybe back at home she's treated as a princess, but i am definitely NOT her maid. SOmetimes i wonder i even bother to care too much for such a person (given the fact this isnt the 1st time she has shown hr self centered side).